The Pastors’ wives dress code; a turtleneck, little black hat, and a pleated skirt
Bros, if I am embarrassing you, don’t walk beside me. Put your secretary and my secretary between us and I will bring up the rear.
We were attending this meeting. Hubby as usual dressed in his navy black 3-piece suit, looking like he stepped off the cover of a GQ mag. Glistening black alligator designer shoes finished off the ensemble.
I could only imagine the animated comments his friends would make that evening. About 12 of them were also guest speakers at the meeting we were attending.
Sharp! On point! Power dresser! Those were a few of the words I knew would top the list.
Coming over to me. I’d checked my wardrobe for the umpteenth time. No power suit or anything that fits into that description there. The few I bought quite expensively had been over-worn. The others were tasteless and unflattering in my estimate.
If you know anything about shopping for suits, you would agree that you have to do twice as much work to get something you might consider a showstopper when it comes to a woman’s own.
I was done with stressing my life trying to look for the perfect skirt suit/trouser suits to wear for church programs. I was totally done with trying to look the part of an anointed pastor’s wife.
I grabbed the next best thing that peeked out at me in the wardrobe. It was an ultra-relaxed boyfriend blazer (knee-length), a white tee and a distressed Levi’s jeans.
Then, I pulled the lines: sorry bros, if I’m embarrassing you today, don’t look at me. Don’t walk beside me… let’s just put people between us and I’m gonna pull up the rear.
Hubby gave me this look that read something like “you this girl, you’re a handful, sha come, let’s not go late.”
Since that day, I’ve dressed up in what feels comfortable for me when we attend meetings and church programs.
Becoming a pastor’s wife does not mean your authentic personality or style should give way for a pseudo one to take over. And adding dressing up to fit a part in addition to the many stresses of life is unnecessary.
As a pastor’s wife, you have to reduce your burden to the barest minimum. Eliminating this one thing; that is always trying to dress up to fit into your part would go a long way in helping you achieve this.
Just relax! Be you. Improve yourself daily. Express you without inhibitions. And live the life of freedom we’ve been called to in Christ!
Funny enough, an older guest minister in that meeting, was also wearing ripped jeans with much larger holes than mine. A man, I mean. Then, what is your stress
Do all things in moderation and you will be good to go
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